Happy Monday !!
Day 24 of 30 poems in 30 days...

Today's guest is Sultry Susan McCartney, a poem about controlling relationships.

WAR ZONE?

You want me to change

My life, looks, to re-arrange

Please don’t try that again

Or I’ll say goodbye again

Enough is now enough

Just pack your stuff

I am what I am

And don’t give a damn

You cannot make me

Or try to fake me

Into your ideal

For I am real

Not a doll you can mould

Into your other love of old

Can you meet me?

Halfway, to form a treaty

No!  Then enough is enough

Please just pack your stuff

So I am flawed

You one you once adored

Let’s be honest

You are no Adonis

I want you to know now

That I want you to go now

Remember when we went on dates

Now our dates are with flying plates

Enough is now enough

Just pack your stuff

Now believe me

You may leave me

I don’t give a flying fart

No more you’ll bruise my heart

Just get on your bike

Hit the road, take a hike

As an afterthought

Take a long walk

On a plank that’s short

I’ve had enough of being bossed

Pack your things and just get lost

Facts about controlling dangerous relationships 

He pushes for quick involvement. He comes on strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this before by anyone." You get pressured for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.

There's constant jealousy. Your partner is excessively possessive, calls constantly, or visits unexpectedly.

He's controlling. He interrogates you intensely about who you talked to and where you were, checks mileage on the car, keeps all the money or asks for receipts, and insists you ask for permission to go anywhere or do anything.

He has very unrealistic expectations. He expects perfection from you and  for you to meet their every need.

There's isolation. He tries to cut you off from family and friends, deprives you of a phone or car, or tries to prevent you from holding a job.

He blames others for his own mistakes. The boss, family, you — it's always someone else's fault if anything goes wrong.

He makes everyone else responsible for their feelings. The abuser says, "You make me angry" instead of "I'm angry." "I wouldn't get so pissed off if you wouldn't...

He's hypersensitive. He's easily insulted and will often rant and rave about injustices that are just part of life.

9He's cruel to animals and children.  He kills or punishes animals brutally. He also may expect children to do things beyond their ability or tease them until they cry.

His uses "playful" force during sex. He enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will; he finds the idea of rape exciting. He intimidates, manipulates or forces you to engage in unwanted sex acts.

There's verbal abuse. He constantly criticizes you or says cruel things. He degrades, curses and calls you ugly names. He will use vulnerable points about your past or current life against you.

There are rigid gender roles in the relationship. He expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.

He has sudden mood swings. He switches from loving to angry in a matter of minutes.

He has a past of battering. He admits to hitting women in the past, but states that they or the situation brought it on.

He threatens violence. He makes statements such as, "I'll break your neck," but then dismisses it with "I really didn't mean it."

NB

Although I've aimed this for women, it can equally apply to men too.

If you are experiencing any of the above or abuse, physically or

verbally and need help then contact the below :-

24-hour National Domestic Violence
Freephone Helpline

0808 2000 247

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